This past weekend my boyfriend and I did some gardening. Or should I say he did the gardening and I watched him. I don’t want you to think that I’m lazy or don’t want to get my hands dirty. Quite on the contrary, I love the feeling of working with my hands, the feeling that I’m creating something tangible. I think that hobbies like gardening, painting, crocheting and knitting are fabulous ways to calm the mind and turn us into more peaceful human beings.
Any repetitive movement is meditative
It’s tremendously rewarding to create something with our hands. Nowadays most of our “work” doesn’t really exist, it’s just in the computer, in the ether or in our heads (studying, problem solving etc.). Whereas holding something in my hands or looking at a flower bed that I created, really fills me with satisfaction and happiness.
There is so much that can go wrong
I’m not trying to distract from the fact that I didn’t really do any of the work, so let me get back to my point. The reason why I wasn’t of much help, is that I have absolutely no clue and no experience with gardening. I never learned it and never felt I had the time, energy, nor honestly the interest to dig in, read books and learn gardening skills bit by bit.
I feel like there is so much that can go wrong, and frankly I’ve killed quite a few plants in my time. I would choose a plant that should be in the shade and put it in direct sun. I water too much or too little. Do I need fertilizer? What kind of soil do I need? It’s not like Home Depot has one that says: “Soil”. Everything is so specialized nowadays.
Get the right guidance
As I helped pull plants out of the plastic containers that they came in when we bought them I was thinking: “What I would need is someone to watch me, and tell me one step at a time exactly what to do.” Maybe demonstrate once to show me how to do it right, then continue to watch me and correct me if I’m doing something wrong. Most importantly, someone to warn me about mistakes, before I even make them. This would safe me a lot of time, effort and not to forget, money.
While I was watching my fingers dig through the dirt I realized: this is exactly how my students must feel when they first start working with me. Some of them are intimidated, they feel like they have no idea what they are supposed to do and they really need me to show them and explain to them how to do it right.
I can totally relate. I felt absolutely incompetent at gardening. And I don’t want anyone to make fun of me. It’s embarrassing to think that I’m messing up the simplest things. For some people, gardening just comes naturally. Not to me. I just don’t know. I’m willing to learn, all that I’m lacking is the information. Let me say to you: I get it.
You won't be shamed.
I get that you might feel embarrassed. You know you should have started working out sooner. You know you’re not in good shape, but you’re willing to work on it. I promise, I will educate you and support you and your goals.
That’s what I will do for you. Whenever you’re ready. :)
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